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{{short description|Ceremony where people are united in marriage}}
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[[File:Sikh wedding ceremony in a Gurudwara.jpg|thumb|Punjabi Wedding ]]
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A '''wedding''' is the [[ceremony]] in which two people become [[marriage|married]]. It is usually between a [[man]] (the [[husband|bridegroom]]) and a [[woman]] (the [[bride]]). Most wedding<ref>{{Cite web|last=|first=|date=2018-05-07|title=Everything About Weddings And Brides|url=https://weddingmeetsfashion.com/|url-status=live|archive-url=|archive-date=|access-date=2021-01-28|website=Wedding Meets Fashion|language=en-US}}</ref> ceremonies involve an exchange of marriage vows by a couple, presentation of a gift (offering, rings, symbolic item, flowers, money, dress), and a public proclamation of marriage by an authority figure or celebrant. In some places, same-sex weddings are legal. It is common for the couple involved in the wedding to exchange vows and to give each other [[rings]]. Weddings are held in [[religious]] buildings or other sites such gardens or the home of the bride's parents.
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==Wedding customs in western societies==
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===Pre-wedding customs===
A '''wedding''' is a [[ceremony]] where two people are united in [[marriage]]. [[Wedding tradition]]s and customs vary greatly between cultures, [[ethnic group]]s, religions, countries, and [[social class]]es. Most wedding ceremonies involve an exchange of [[marriage vows]] by a couple, presentation of a gift (offering, rings, symbolic item, flowers, money, dress), and a public proclamation of marriage by an authority figure or [[Celebrant (Australia)|celebrant]]. Special wedding garments are often worn, and the ceremony is sometimes followed by a [[wedding reception]]. Music, poetry, prayers, or readings from [[religious text]]s or literature are also commonly incorporated into the ceremony, as well as [[Wedding superstitions|superstitious customs]].
In the few days or weeks before a wedding, the bride will attend a "bridal shower" held in a friend's home. She receives gifts for and advice about married life. The groom will attend a "bachelor party" with his groomsmen. This event marks his last night as a bachelor. The party is usually held in a restaurant or club. There is much drinking and merriment. Strippers may entertain. Porn movies may be viewed to educate the groom about his marital responsibilities. A dinner is sometimes held for the parents of the couple. A dinner for all the members of the wedding party is usually held the night before the wedding.
===Ceremony===
A traditional wedding ceremony in the [[western world]] usually consists of the couple exchanging vows before a government official such as a justice of the peace or a clergyperson such as a priest, minister, or pastor. Nuns are not permitted to perform marriages. Rings are exchanged between the married couple, following which they kiss.
===Site===
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Traditionally, the bride's [[church]], [[synagogue]],temple or other religious centre, or the home of her parents is the site of her wedding. Non-traditional couples choose various and unusual sites. Some couples have married while snorkeling or skydiving. Rich couples sometimes choose "destination weddings". These couples pay for guests to attend their wedding at a romantic "destination" such as a [[Caribbean]] island.
===Reception===
==Common elements across cultures==
[[File:My Favorite Wedding Picture.jpg|thumb|Cutting the cake]]
{{See also|Wedding customs by country}}
There is often a party or banquet after the wedding called a reception. This is called the wedding breakfast as it is the first meal the married couple eat together. During the reception, the couple greet friends and family, cut a cake, and have the first dance together. The bride's garter is usually tossed to the groomsmen. The bride's bouquet is tossed to the bridesmaids. The couple depart the reception site in a car that is sometimes decorated with balloons, signs ("Just Married!"), old shoes or tin cans tied to the rear bumper.
[[File: Edmund Blair Leighton - signing the register.jpg|thumb|Many cultures have adopted the traditional Western custom of the [[white wedding]], when the [[bride]] wears a white [[wedding dress]] and [[veil]]. Painting by [[Edmund Leighton]] (1853–1922)]]
[[File:Rådberg-Eikner Wedding group 2 2017.jpg|thumb|Wedding party at Stockholm's [[Lillienhoff Palace]] in Sweden in 2017]]
===Dress===
Some cultures have adopted the traditional Western custom of the [[white wedding]], in which a [[bride]] wears a white [[wedding dress]] and [[veil]]. This tradition was popularized through the marriage of [[Queen Victoria]].<ref name=":2">{{Cite web|url=https://www.britannica.com/story/why-do-brides-wear-white|title=Why Do Brides Wear White?|website=britannica.com|access-date=Sep 7, 2021|archive-date=September 6, 2021|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20210906175716/https://www.britannica.com/story/why-do-brides-wear-white|url-status=live}}</ref> Some say Victoria's choice of a white gown may have simply been a sign of extravagance, but may have also been influenced by the values she held which emphasized [[Chastity|sexual purity]].<ref name="Otnes 2003 p.31">Otnes, Cele & Pleck, Elizabeth (2003). ''Cinderella Dreams: the Allure of the Lavish Wedding'', p. 31. University of California Press, Berkeley.</ref>
The bride usually wears a white [[Wedding dress|dress]]. White symbolizes [[virginity]]. She sometimes wears a thin piece of white cloth on her head called a [[veil]], or a wreath of flowers, or a tiara, or other headdress. The groom lifts the veil before or after the vows are taken. The groom is usually dressed in formal attire.
===Honeymoon===
The use of a wedding ring has long been part of religious weddings in Europe and America, but the origin of the tradition is unclear. One possibility is the Roman belief in the [[Vena amoris]], which was believed to be a blood vessel that ran from the fourth finger (ring finger) directly to the heart. Thus, when a couple wore rings on this finger, their hearts were connected. Historian Vicki Howard points out that the belief in the "ancient" quality of the practice is most likely a modern invention.<ref>Howard, Vicky (2006). ''Brides Inc.: American Weddings and the Business of Tradition'', p. 34. University of Pennsylvania Press, Philadelphia.</ref> In the United States of America, a groom's wedding band has not appeared until the early 20th century,<ref name="autogenerated61">Howard, Vicky (2006). ''Brides Inc.: American Weddings and the Business of Tradition'', p. 61. University of Pennsylvania Press, Philadelphia.</ref> while in Europe it has been part of the tradition since the ancient Romans, as witnessed by [[Gaius (jurist)|the jurist Gaius]].
After the wedding, the newlyweds usually take a trip, which is called a honeymoon. Traditionally, the honeymoon was the time when the couple had their first sexual intercourse and established their sexual relationship. Many, many couples in the western world today have had sexual intercourse long before the wedding, and the honeymoon has become a time of intimate relaxation before returning to work, debts, and other obligations.
===Brides maids===
{{anchor|Send off}}The exit from the wedding ceremony is also called the "send off", and often includes traditional practices, such as the newlyweds and the wedding party bowing and kissing the knees of the elders in Ethiopian weddings. The send off often includes throwing rice (a symbol of prosperity and fertility)<ref name=Singh2013/> or other seeds at the newlyweds in most of the [[Western world]],<ref name="XuChen2018">{{cite book|last1=Xu|first1=Guobin|last2=Chen|first2=Yanhui|last3=Xu|first3=Lianhua|title=Introduction to Western Culture|chapter=Western Folklore|year=2018|pages=163–187|doi=10.1007/978-981-10-8153-8_6|isbn=978-981-10-8152-1}}</ref> as well as for example [[India]]<ref name=Singh2013>{{cite web|url=http://shodhganga.inflibnet.ac.in/bitstream/10603/41104/8/08_summary.pdf|title=Marketing strategies of rice exporters|author=B Singh|year=2013|access-date=May 9, 2019|archive-date=May 9, 2019|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20190509165615/http://shodhganga.inflibnet.ac.in/bitstream/10603/41104/8/08_summary.pdf|url-status=live}}</ref> and [[Malaysia]].<ref>{{cite journal|url=https://fhtm.uitm.edu.my/images/jthca/Vol8Issue2/Chap-1.pdf|author=Abd. Razak Aziz, Awang Azaman Awang Pawi|title=Redefining Malay Food in the Post Malaysia's New Economic Policy (NEP)|journal=Journal of Tourism, Hospitality & Culinary Arts (JTHCA)|date=2016-12-01|volume=8|issue=2|access-date=May 9, 2019|archive-date=May 9, 2019|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20190509165615/https://fhtm.uitm.edu.my/images/jthca/Vol8Issue2/Chap-1.pdf|url-status=live}}</ref> Despite fears of the opposite, the use of uncooked rice for this purpose is not harmful to birds.<ref>{{cite web|url=https://www.acs.org/content/acs/en/pressroom/reactions/videos/2018/fact-or-fiction-uncooked-rice-is-bad-for-birds.html|title=Fact or Fiction: Uncooked Rice is Bad for Birds|website=[[American Chemical Society]]|date=2018-11-05|access-date=May 9, 2019|archive-date=May 9, 2019|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20190509184114/https://www.acs.org/content/acs/en/pressroom/reactions/videos/2018/fact-or-fiction-uncooked-rice-is-bad-for-birds.html|url-status=live}}</ref> [[Shoe tossing]] in place of rice has also been used in several cultures.<ref>{{Cite book|last=Britain)|first=Folklore Society (Great|url=https://books.google.com/books?id=rVgCAAAAMAAJ&pg=PA258|title=Publications|date=1895|language=en|access-date=July 29, 2020|archive-date=August 12, 2020|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20200812234414/https://books.google.com/books?id=rVgCAAAAMAAJ&pg=PA258|url-status=live}}</ref>
The brides maids are people that walk down the aisle before the bride and her father. They often wear a dress the same colour as the bride's dress and they have a little flower bouquet like the bride.
[[File:Armenian Wedding at Khor Virap (1).jpg|thumb|Armenian Wedding at Khor Virap]]
==Bridal shower==
[[File:Mahnalan lava - häät.jpg|thumb|Wedding decorations at the Mahnala Stage (''Mahnalan lava'') in [[Hämeenkyrö]], [[Pirkanmaa]], [[Finland]] in July 2019]]
The bridal shower is similar to the bachelor party but it is for the women.
The wedding ceremony is often followed by [[wedding reception]] or a [[wedding breakfast]], in which the rituals may include speeches from a groom, best man, father of a bride and possibly a bride,<ref>[http://www.rhymingspeeches.com/bridespeech] {{webarchive|url=https://web.archive.org/web/20120814003503/http://www.rhymingspeeches.com/bridespeech|date=August 14, 2012}}</ref> the newlyweds' [[First dance#Weddings|first dance]] as a couple, and the cutting of an elegant [[wedding cake]]. In recent years traditions have changed to include a father-daughter dance for a bride and her father, and sometimes also a mother-son dance for a groom and his mother.
==Traditional wedding attire==
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* [[Dress code (Western)|Western dress code]]
** [[Wedding dress]] (or bridal gown), a special dress worn by a bride.
** [[File:Wedding veil.jpg|thumb|Traditional western wedding [[veil]]]]Wedding [[veil]], popularized by Queen Victoria, was a long-held custom in which the 'purity' and 'innocence' of the bride could thwart away evil spirits.
** [[Morning dress]], western daytime formal dress
** [[White tie]] ("evening dress" in the U.K; very formal evening attire)
** [[Black tie]] or Evening Suit ("dinner jacket" in the U.K; often referred to as a "[[tuxedo]]" in the U.S and Canada; traditionally appropriate only for use after 6:00 p.m.
* [[Barong Tagalog]], an embroidered, formal men's garment of the Philippines
* [[Batik]] and [[Kebaya]], a garment worn by the [[Javanese people]] of Indonesia and also by the [[Ethnic Malays|Malay people]] of Malaysia
* [[Dashiki]], the traditional West African wedding attire
* [[Dhoti]], male garment in South India
* [[Hanbok]], the traditional garment of Korea
* [[Kilt]], male garment particular to [[Culture of Scotland|Scottish culture]]<ref>{{cite news|title=Kilts: tightly woven into Scots culture|url=http://heritage.scotsman.com/clans.cfm?id=41882005|newspaper=Scotsman|date=February 10, 2005|access-date=2007-04-16 |archive-url = https://web.archive.org/web/20070202162115/http://heritage.scotsman.com/clans.cfm?id=41882005 <!-- Bot retrieved archive --> |archive-date = February 2, 2007}}</ref><ref>{{cite web|title=The Scottish Kilt|url=http://www.visitscotland.com/guide/scotland-factfile/scottish-icons/|publisher=Visit Scotland|access-date=2007-04-16|archive-date=March 19, 2011|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20110319030531/http://www.visitscotland.com/guide/scotland-factfile/scottish-icons/|url-status=live}}</ref><ref>{{cite web|title=Scottish Culture and Heritage: The Kilt|url=http://www.scotsmart.com/info/culture/kilt.html|publisher=Scotsmart|access-date=2007-04-16|author=Jim Murdoch|archive-date=September 30, 2007|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20070930014445/http://www.scotsmart.com/info/culture/kilt.html|url-status=live}}</ref>
* [[Kittel]], a white robe worn by the groom at an [[Orthodox Judaism|Orthodox Jewish]] wedding. The kittel is worn only under the [[chuppah]], and is removed before the reception.
* Qun Gua or Kua (裙褂 pinyin ''qún guà'', Cantonese ''kwàhn kwáa''), Chinese traditional [[formal wear]]. This can be in the form of a [[qipao]] or [[hanfu]].
* [[Ribbon work|Ribbon shirt]], often worn by [[Native Americans in the United States|American Indian]] men on auspicious occasions, such as weddings, another common custom is to wrap bride and [[groom]] in a blanket
* [[Sampot]], traditional dress in Cambodia
* [[Sari]]/[[Lehenga]], Indian popular and traditional dress in India
* Seshweshe, a female dress worn by the [[Basotho]] women during special ceremonies. Although it has recently been adopted to men attire as well.
* [[Sherwani]], a long coat-like garment worn in South Asia
* [[Kimono#Shiromuku|Shiromuku Kimono]], a traditional wedding garment in Japan
* [[Tiara]], or wedding [[Crown (headgear)|crown]], worn by Syrian and Greek couples (which are called "τα στέφανα," which literally means "wreaths") and Scandinavian brides
* [[Topor (headgear)|Topor]], a type of conical headgear traditionally worn by grooms as part of the [[Bengali Hindu]] wedding ceremony
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<gallery mode="packed" caption="Different wedding clothing around the world">
File:HinduWeddingIndia.jpg|[[Hindu]] wedding in India
File:Art and culture.JPG|[[Khmer people|Khmer]] (Cambodian) wedding in traditional outfits
File:Narayangarh-52.JPG|A bride and a bridegroom in Nepal
File:Handfasting by Gordon.jpg|Neopagan [[Handfasting (Neopaganism)|handfasting]] ceremony
File:Coupla at Nikah.jpg|A [[muslim]] couple in India
File:Fire rituals at a Hindu Wedding, Orissa India.jpg|Fire rituals at a [[Hindu wedding]], India
File:Crowning in Syro-Malabar Nasrani Wedding by Mar Gregory Karotemprel.jpg|Crowning during a [[Nasrani wedding]] in the [[Syro-Malabar Catholic Church]]
File:Shinto married couple.jpg|Japanese bride and bridegroom
File:Ստորին Հայքի հարսնազգեստ.jpg|Traditional [[Armenians|Armenian]] wedding dress
File:Parsi-marriage-1.jpg|A [[Parsi]] wedding
File:Assyrian wedding, Mechelen.jpg|[[Assyrian people|Assyrian]] bride and groom
File:TraditionalChineseWeddingDress.jpg|Chinese traditional wedding dress, [[Qing Dynasty]] style
File:Traditional chinese wedding 003.jpg|Chinese traditional wedding clothing, [[Ming Dynasty]] style
File:Hanfu Mariage01.jpg|Chinese traditional wedding attire, [[Zhou Dynasty]] style
File:Burning Man 2013 Photo chapel, The wedding party! (9660390094).jpg|Wedding at [[Burning Man]]
File:Boda principios S XX.jpg|Wedding 1935 in Barcelona, Spain
File:Minangkabau wedding 2.jpg|[[Minangkabau marriage]] in Indonesia
File:Meiji-jingu wedding procession - P1000847.jpg|[[Marriage in Japan#Weddings in Japan|Japanese wedding]] at the [[Meiji Shrine]]
File:Groom, Bangladesh.jpg|Groom in the traditional dress of Bangladesh in a wedding ceremony.
File:Sri lankan Bride and Groom1.jpg|Sri Lankan Kandyan Bride and Groom [[Sri Lanka]]
File:Armenian Wedding at Khor Virap (1).jpg|Armenian Wedding at Khor Virap
File:Bauernhochzeit Jomala 1.jpg|A traditional wedding ceremony in [[Jomala]], [[Åland]]
File:Aadiwasi tribal marriage groom bride.jpg|Aadiwasi tribal marriage groom bride, India
File:Marriage Ceremony in Rural Bangladesh.jpg|Rural marriage ceremony in [[Mymensingh]], Bangladesh
File:A wedding in the forest.jpg|Wedding in Turkey
</gallery>
==Wedding music==
{{Main|Wedding music}}
{{listen|filename=Wagner_Bridal_Chorus.ogg|title=Bridal march|description=The [[Bridal Chorus]] from [[Richard Wagner]]'s opera [[Lohengrin (opera)|Lohengrin]]}}
===Western weddings===
[[Wedding music|Music]] played at Western weddings includes a [[Processional hymn|processional]] song for walking down the aisle (ex: wedding march) either before or after the marriage service. An example of such use is reported in the [[wedding of Nora Robinson and Alexander Kirkman Finlay]] in 1878.<ref name= QA1408>{{cite news |url=http://nla.gov.au/nla.news-article30673943 |title=Marriage of Mr A.K. Finlay and Miss Robinson |newspaper=[[The Queanbeyan Age]] |location=NSW |date=August 14, 1878 |access-date=September 4, 2013 |page=1 |archive-date=May 24, 2022 |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20220524034529/https://trove.nla.gov.au/newspaper/article/30673943 |url-status=live }}</ref>
The "[[Bridal Chorus]]" from ''[[Lohengrin (opera)|Lohengrin]]'' by [[Richard Wagner]], commonly known as "Here Comes the Bride", is often used as the processional. Wagner is said to have been [[Antisemitism|anti-Semitic]],<ref>{{cite encyclopedia |last=Cooke |first=Deryck V. |url=http://www.britannica.com/EBchecked/topic/633925/Richard-Wagner |title=Richard Wagner | German composer |encyclopedia=Britannica.com |access-date=2015-11-10 |archive-date=April 6, 2011 |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20110406173629/http://www.britannica.com/EBchecked/topic/633925/Richard-Wagner |url-status=live }}</ref> and as a result, the Bridal Chorus is normally not used at Jewish weddings.<ref>Pollack, Suzanne (September 25, 2015) [https://washingtonjewishweek.com/25376/no-wagner-for-you/wjw-guides/wonderful-weddings/ "No Wagner for You"] {{Webarchive|url=https://web.archive.org/web/20191227011856/https://washingtonjewishweek.com/25376/no-wagner-for-you/wjw-guides/wonderful-weddings/ |date=December 27, 2019 }}, ''Washington Jewish Week''. Retrieved December 26, 2019.</ref> UK law forbids music with any religious connotations to be used in a civil ceremony.<ref>{{Citation | url = https://celebratewithmusic.co.uk/songs-you-cant-have-at-a-civil-ceremony/ | publisher = Wedding Music Designer (Simon Jordan) | type = article | title = Music Not Allowed at Civil Ceremonies | date = August 30, 2015 | contribution = England and Wales | access-date = July 16, 2018 | archive-date = October 15, 2016 | archive-url = https://web.archive.org/web/20161015100811/http://celebratewithmusic.co.uk/songs-you-cant-have-at-a-civil-ceremony/ | url-status = live }}</ref>
[[Johann Pachelbel]]'s [[Pachelbel's Canon|Canon in D]] is an alternative processional.<ref>{{cite book
}}</ref> Other alternatives include various contemporary melodies, such as Bob Marley's [[One Love/People Get Ready|One Love]], which is sometimes performed by a steel drum band.<ref name="autogenerated61"/> The [[Wedding music|Music]] used in modern weddings is left completely up to the Bride and Groom and it is also becoming growingly popular for couples to add their own twist to the song they walk down the aisle to. Many Brides and Grooms use songs that are sentimental or hold special value to them.
In the United States, approximately 2 million people get married each year and close to 70 million people attend a wedding and spend more than $100 on a gift.<ref>{{cite news |last=Tiffany |first=Kaitlyn |url=https://www.vox.com/the-goods/2019/3/1/18246428/wedtech-wedding-startups-zola-the-knot |title=Why is the wedding industry so hard to disrupt? |work=[[Vox (website)|Vox]] |date=2019-03-01 |access-date=2019-03-04 |archive-date=March 5, 2019 |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20190305004111/https://www.vox.com/the-goods/2019/3/1/18246428/wedtech-wedding-startups-zola-the-knot |url-status=live }}</ref>
In the United Kingdom, according to a survey, the average spend minimum spend on a wedding gift<ref>{{Cite web |date=2020-01-21 |title=Wedding gift lists |url=https://fizzandgroove.com/wedding-gift-lists/ |access-date=2022-03-13 |website=Fizz and Groove |language=en-GB |archive-date=November 18, 2021 |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20211118184658/https://fizzandgroove.com/wedding-gift-lists/ |url-status=live }}</ref> is £24.70 and the average maximum spend is £111.46. 85% of people said that they were more likely to spend more money on a person if they had a better relationship with them.
==Customs associated with various religions and cultures==
===Christian customs===
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{{Further|Marriage#Christianity}}
[[File:Catholic wedding.jpg|thumb|upright=1|left|A couple exchange vows at the [[Altar#Christianity|altar]] during a ceremony in a [[Catholic Church]].]]
Most Christian churches give some form of blessing to a marriage, which is seen as a [[Christian views on marriage#Denominational beliefs and practice|sacred institution]] in some sense, although terminology and associated theological meanings vary widely from one denomination to another: e.g., "holy matrimony," "sacrament of marriage," "holy ordinance of marriage," "holy union," and so forth.
A celebration of Holy Matrimony typically includes mutual [[vow]]s or solemn promises of lifelong love and [[Monogamy|fidelity]] by the couple, and may include some sort of pledge by the community to support the couple's relationship. A ''church wedding'' is a ceremony held in a [[church (building)|church]] and presided over by a Christian [[pastor]]. Traditionally, Christian weddings occur in a church as Christian marriage ideally begins where one also starts their faith journey (Christians receive the [[sacrament]] of [[baptism]] in church in the presence of their [[Church (congregation)|congregation]]).<ref name="Dooley2016">{{cite book |last1=Dooley |first1=Sandra |title=A Guide to Catholic Weddings |date=20 June 2016 |publisher=Liturgy Training Publications |isbn=978-1-61833-134-2 |pages=29–30 |language=English}}</ref> Catholic Christian weddings must "take place in a church building" as holy matrimony is a sacrament; sacraments normatively occur in the presence of Christ in the house of God, and "members of the faith community [should be] present to witness the event and provide support and encouragement for those celebrating the sacrament."<ref name="Dooley2016"/> Bishops never grant permission "to those requesting to be married in a garden, on the beach, or some other place outside of the church" and a dispensation is only granted "in extraordinary circumstances (for example, if a bride or groom is ill or disabled and unable to come to the church)."<ref name="Dooley2016"/> Marriage in the church, for Christians, is seen as contributing to the fruit of the newlywed couple regularly attending church each [[Lord's Day]] and raising children in the faith.<ref name="Dooley2016"/>
Wedding ceremonies typically contain prayers and readings from the [[Holy Bible]] and reflect the church's teachings about the spiritual significance of marriage, as well as its purpose and obligations. The wedding service often includes the reception of [[Holy Communion]], especially in the context of [[Mass (liturgy)|Mass]] (as with Catholicism, Lutheranism, and Anglicanism).<ref>{{cite web|url=http://www.holyspiritchurch.com/weddingarr.htm |title=Wedding arrangements |date=June 23, 2008 |access-date=2015-11-10 |url-status=dead |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20081216084708/http://www.holyspiritchurch.com/weddingarr.htm |archive-date=December 16, 2008 }}</ref> In some traditional weddings of [[Western Christianity]] (especially Catholicism, Lutheranism and Anglicanism), a 'care cloth' or 'nuptial veil' (''velatio nuptialis'') "signifying a marriage yoke joining the bride and groom together" may be held over the kneeling couple during the nuptial blessing given by the priest.<ref name="Dipippo2019">{{cite web |last1=Dipippo |first1=Gregory |title=The Velatio Nuptialis: An Ancient (and Forgotten) Part of the Latin Marriage Rite |url=https://www.newliturgicalmovement.org/2019/02/the-velatio-nuptialis-ancient-and.html |publisher=Novus Motus Liturgicus |access-date=23 January 2022 |language=English |date=8 February 2019 |archive-date=January 23, 2022 |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20220123034901/https://www.newliturgicalmovement.org/2019/02/the-velatio-nuptialis-ancient-and.html |url-status=live }}</ref><ref>{{cite book |author1=[[Olavus Petri]] |title=The Evangelical Lutheran Church Manual of Olavus Petri: A Manual in Swedish, Including Baptism, Etc. |date=1929 |publisher=Lutheran Augustana Book Concern |language=English}}</ref><ref name="Hopkins1883">{{cite book |last1=Hopkins |first1=Samuel Miles |title=General Liturgy and Book of Common Prayer |date=1883 |publisher=A.S. Barnes |page=135 |language=English}}</ref><ref name="Monger2004">{{cite book |last1=Monger |first1=George |title=Marriage Customs of the World: From Henna to Honeymoons |date=2004 |publisher=ABC-CLIO |isbn=978-1-57607-987-4 |page=53 |language=English}}</ref><ref name="Warner2013">{{cite book |last1=Warner |first1=Diane |title=Diane Warner's Complete Guide to a Traditional Wedding: Time-Tested Toasts, Vows, Ceremonies & Etiquette: Everything You Need to Create Your Perfect Day |date=25 November 2013 |publisher=[[Red Wheel]] |isbn=978-1-60163-494-8 |language=English}}</ref>
Pre-marital counseling may be urged or required for the engaged couple.<ref name="BOW1964">{{cite book|title=The Book of Worship for Church and Home: With Orders of Worship, Services for the Administration of the Sacraments and Other Aids to Worship According to the Usages of the Methodist Church|url=https://books.google.com/books?id=Ckw6vgAACAAJ|access-date=March 25, 2017|year=1964|publisher=Methodist Publishing House|language=en|pages=32|archive-date=June 12, 2019|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20190612125930/https://books.google.com/books?id=Ckw6vgAACAAJ|url-status=live}}</ref> In some Christian countries or denominations, a [[Engagement#Christianity|betrothal rite]], as well as the reading of [[banns of marriage]] may also be required before the wedding date.<ref name="Tucker2011">{{cite book|last=Tucker|first=Karen B. Westerfield|title=American Methodist Worship|date=April 27, 2011|publisher=Oxford University Press|language=en |isbn=9780190454203|page=188}}</ref>
In the [[Roman Catholic Church]], Holy Matrimony is considered to be one of [[Sacraments of the Catholic Church|the seven sacraments]], in this case, one that the spouses bestow upon each other in front of a priest and members of the community as witnesses. As with all sacraments, it is seen as having been instituted by Jesus himself (see [[Gospel of Matthew]] 19:1–2, [[Catechism of the Catholic Church]] §1614–1615). In the [[Eastern Orthodox Church]], it is one of the [[Sacred mysteries|Mysteries]] and is seen as an ordination and a martyrdom. The Christian wedding ceremony of [[Saint Thomas Christians]], an ethnoreligious group of Christians in India, incorporates elements from local [[India|Indian]] traditions. [[Protestantism|Protestant]] weddings may be elaborate (as with Lutheranism and Anglicanism) or simple (as with Baptists). For example, in the [[United Methodist Church]], the Service of Christian Marriage (Rite I) includes the elements found in a typical [[Lord's Day|Sunday]] service, such as hymns, prayers, and readings from the Bible, as well as other elements unique to a wedding, including taking [[marriage vows]] and an optional exchange of [[wedding ring]]s, as well as a special [[benediction]] for the couple.<ref>{{cite web|url=https://www.umcdiscipleship.org/resources/a-service-of-christian-marriage-i|title=A Service of Christian Marriage|year=1992|publisher=[[Discipleship Ministries]]|language=en|access-date=March 28, 2017|archive-date=March 28, 2017|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20170328195557/https://www.umcdiscipleship.org/resources/a-service-of-christian-marriage-i|url-status=live}}</ref> [[Holy Communion]] may be part of the wedding service in liturgical Protestant churches (e.g., [[Lutheran Church|Lutheran]], [[Anglican Church|Anglican]], or [[Methodism|Methodist]]), but is rarely, if ever, found in weddings of other [[low-church]] Protestant denominations (e.g., [[Baptist]]s).
A [[Quaker wedding]] ceremony in a [[Quakers|Friends]] meeting is similar to any other [[meeting for worship]], and therefore often very different from the experience expected by non-Friends.<ref>{{cite book |title=The Alternative Wedding Book |date=1995 |publisher=Wood Lake Publishing Inc. |isbn=978-1-55145-081-0 |page=40 |language=English}}</ref>
In some Western countries, a separate and secular [[civil marriage|civil wedding ceremony]] is required for recognition by the state, while in other Western countries, couples must merely obtain a [[marriage license]] from a local government authority and can be married by Christian or other [[clergy]] authorized by law to do so.
Since the beginning of the 21st century, same-sex couples have been allowed to marry civilly in many countries, and some Christian churches in those countries allow religious marriages of same-sex couples, though some forbid it. See the article [[Same-sex marriage]].
===Hindu customs===
{{Main|Hindu wedding}}
[[File:Gaye holud2 JBI.jpg|thumb|left|A girl with the traditional gift of Gaye holud.]]
[[File:Rajput wedding riding3.jpg|thumb|Bridegroom arrives on horseback at a [[Rajput]] wedding]]
Hindu ceremonies are usually conducted totally or at least partially in [[Sanskrit]], the language of the [[Hindu texts|Hindu scriptures]]. The wedding celebrations may last for several days and they can be extremely diverse, depending upon the region, denomination, and [[caste]]. [[Mehendi]] ceremony is a traditional ritual in Hindu weddings, where [[Henna]] application takes place on the bride's hands and legs, before the wedding. On the wedding day, the bride and the bridegroom garland each other in front of the guests. Most guests witness only this short ceremony and then socialize, have food, and leave. The religious part (if applicable) comes hours later, witnessed by close friends and relatives. In cases where a religious ceremony is present, a [[Brahmin]] (Hindu priest) arranges a sacred ''[[yajna]]'' (fire-sacrifice), and the sacred fire ([[Agni]]) is considered the prime witness (''[[Sakshi (Witness)|sākshī]]'') of the marriage. He chants [[mantra]]s from the [[Vedas]] and subsidiary texts while the couple is seated before the fire. The most important step is ''[[saptapadi]]'' or ''saat phere'', wherein the bride and the groom, hand-in-hand, encircle the sacred fire seven times, each circle representing a matrimonial vow. Then the groom marks the bride's hair parting with [[vermilion]] (''[[sindoor]]'') and puts a gold necklace (''[[mangalsutra]]'') around her neck. Or a yellow thread applied with turmeric is knotted around the bride's neck 3 times at marriage. The first knot represents her obedience and respect to her husband, the second one to his parents and the third represents her respect to God. Several other rituals may precede or follow these afore-mentioned rites. Then the bride formally departs from her blood-relatives to join the groom's family.
A traditional Jewish wedding usually follows this format:<ref name="Aish">{{cite web|url=http://www.aish.com/literacy/lifecycle/Guide_to_the_Jewish_Wedding.asp|title=Guide to the Jewish Wedding|access-date=2008-07-03|archive-date=September 4, 2008|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20080904035438/http://www.aish.com/literacy/lifecycle/Guide_to_the_Jewish_Wedding.asp|url-status=live}}</ref><ref name="My Jewish Learning">{{cite web|url=http://www.myjewishlearning.com/life/Life_Events/Weddings/Liturgy_Ritual_and_Custom/Nissuin.shtml|title=Nissuin: The Second of the Two Ceremonies|access-date=2008-07-03|archive-date=November 11, 2010|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20101111023938/http://www.myjewishlearning.com/life/Life_Events/Weddings/Liturgy_Ritual_and_Custom/Nissuin.shtml|url-status=live}}</ref><ref name="Understanding the Jewish Wedding">{{cite web |url=http://www.rebgoldie.com/Wedding.htm |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20070921063911/http://www.rebgoldie.com/Wedding.htm |archive-date=September 21, 2007|title=Understanding the Jewish Wedding |access-date=2008-07-03}}</ref><ref name="The Knot">{{cite web|url=http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-planning/wedding-ceremony/articles/jewish-wedding-ceremony-rituals.aspx|title=Ceremony: Jewish Wedding Rituals|access-date=2008-07-03|archive-date=February 4, 2011|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20110204083541/http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-planning/wedding-ceremony/articles/jewish-wedding-ceremony-rituals.aspx|url-status=live}}</ref><ref name="Jewish Art">{{cite web|url=http://www.jhom.com/lifecycle/marriage/art.htm|title=Marriage in Jewish Art|access-date=2008-07-03|archive-date=October 11, 2008|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20081011144215/http://www.jhom.com/lifecycle/marriage/art.htm|url-status=live}}</ref>
* Before the ceremony, the couple formalize a written [[ketubah]] (marriage contract), specifying the obligations of husband to the wife and contingencies in case of divorce. The ketubah is signed by two witnesses and later read under the [[chuppah]] (wedding canopy).
* The couple is married under the chuppah signifying their new home together. The chuppah can be made from a piece of cloth or other material attached to four poles, or a giant [[tallit]] (prayer shawl) held over the couple by four family members or friends.
* The wedding couple is accompanied by both sets of parents and they join the wedding couple under the chuppah.
** In Orthodox Jewish weddings, the bride is accompanied to the chuppah by both mothers, and the groom is accompanied to the chuppah by both fathers.
* Seven blessings are recited, blessing the bride and groom and their new home.
* The couple sip a glass of wine from a Kiddush cup.
* The groom will smash a wine glass with his right foot, ostensibly in remembrance of the destruction of the [[Second Temple]].
** In Reform Jewish weddings, the bride and groom can smash the wine glass together.
* At some weddings, the couple may declare that each is sanctified to the other, repeat other vows and exchange rings.
** In Orthodox Jewish weddings, the bride does not speak under the chuppah and only she receives a ring. The groom recites "Harei at mekudeshet li k'dat Moshe V'Yisrael"- "behold you are [thus] sanctified to me by the [[Torah|law of Moses]] and Israel" as he places the ring on the bride's right index finger. The bride's silence and acceptance of the ring signify her agreement to the marriage. This part of the ceremony is called [[Nashim|kiddushin]]. The groom's giving an object of value to the bride is necessary for the wedding to be valid.
** In more egalitarian weddings, the bride responds verbally, often giving the groom a ring in return. A common response is "ani l'dodi, v'dodi li" (I am my beloved's, my beloved is mine)
* In some Orthodox weddings, the groom then says:
:''"If I forget you, O Jerusalem, may my right hand forget its skill.
:''May my tongue cling to the roof of my mouth.''
:''If I do not remember you,''
:''if I do not consider Jerusalem in my highest joy."
* The ceremony ends with the groom breaking a glass underfoot.
* The couple spend their first moments as husband and wife in seclusion (apart from the wedding guests, and with no other person present). This ''cheder yichud'' – "the room of seclusion (or 'oneness')" [[Halakha|halachically]] strengthens the marriage bond since Orthodox Jews are forbidden to be secluded with an unrelated person of the opposite sex.
* The ceremony is followed by a ''[[seudat mitzvah]]'', the wedding meal, as well as music and dancing.
* At the conclusion of the wedding meal, ''[[Birkat Hamazon]]'' (Grace After Meals) is recited, as well as the seven wedding blessings.
In more observant communities, the couple will celebrate for seven more days, called the ''[[Sheva Brachot]]'' (seven blessings) during which the seven wedding blessings are recited at every large gathering during this time.
=== Islamic customs ===
{{Main|Marriage in Islam|Islamic marital practices}}
[[File:Djerba Henné et Harkous.JPG|thumb|Henna on the hands of a bride in Tunisia]]
A wedding is typically a happy time for families to celebrate. In the [[Middle East]], there are colorful, cultural variations from place to place.<ref>{{cite web|url=http://islam.about.com/od/marriage/a/worldweddings.htm|title=Islamic Wedding Party Customs|last=Dodge|first=Christine Huda|publisher=About.com|access-date=June 8, 2013|archive-date=May 14, 2013|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20130514200138/http://islam.about.com/od/marriage/a/worldweddings.htm|url-status=live}}</ref>
Two male witnesses who are the members of the family in most cases are required for Nikah. According to the [[Quran]], in a married [[Muslim]] couple, both husband and wife act as each other's protector and comforter and therefore only meant "for each other".
All Muslim marriages have to be declared publicly and are never to be undertaken in secret. For many Muslims, it is the ceremony that counts as the actual wedding alongside a confirmation of that wedding in a registry office according to ''[[fiqh]]''. In Islam a wedding is also viewed as [[Islamic marriage contract|a legal contract]] particularly in Islamic jurisprudences. However, most Muslim cultures separate both the institutions of the mosque and marriage; no religious official is necessary, but very often an [[Imam]] presides and performs the ceremony, he may deliver a short sermon.<ref>{{cite web |url=http://www.bbc.co.uk/religion/religions/islam/ritesrituals/weddings_1.shtml |title=Religions – Islam: Weddings |publisher=BBC |access-date=2015-11-10 |archive-date=December 12, 2017 |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20171212163343/http://www.bbc.co.uk/religion/religions/islam/ritesrituals/weddings_1.shtml |url-status=live }}</ref> Celebrations may differ from country to country depending on their culture but the main ceremony is followed by a [[Walima]] (the marriage banquet).
In Islam, [[polygyny]] is allowed with certain religious restrictions. Despite that, an overwhelming majority of Muslims traditionally practice [[monogamy]].
It is forbidden in [[Islam]] for parents or anyone else: to [[Forced marriage|force, coerce, or trick]] either man or woman into a marriage that is contrary to the individual will of any one of the couples. It is also necessary for all marriages to commence with the best of intentions.
===Chinese customs===
[[File:Traditional Chinese wedding ceremony.jpg|thumb|In traditional Chinese wedding ceremonies, bride arrives in a ''[[litter (vehicle)|jiao]]'']]
At [[Chinese marriage|traditional Chinese weddings]], the [[tea ceremony]] is the equivalent of an exchange of vows at a Western wedding ceremony. This ritual is still practiced widely among rural Chinese; however, young people in larger cities, as well as in Taiwan, Hong Kong, Malaysia, and Singapore, tend to practice a combination of Western style of marriage together with the tea ceremony.
When the bride leaves her home with the groom to his house, a "Good Luck Woman" will hold a red umbrella over her head, meaning, "Raise the bark, spread the leaves." This "Good Luck Woman" should be someone who is blessed with a good marriage, healthy children, and husband and living parents. Other relatives will scatter rice, red beans, and green beans in front of her. The red umbrella protects the bride from evil spirits, and the rice and beans are to attract the attention of the gold chicken.<ref>{{cite news |last1=Siu |first1=Tyrone |title=Chicken ceremony rooted in ancient rites |url=https://widerimage.reuters.com/story/chicken-ceremony-rooted-in-ancient-rites |access-date=July 8, 2018 |language=en |archive-date=July 8, 2018 |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20180708133927/https://widerimage.reuters.com/story/chicken-ceremony-rooted-in-ancient-rites |url-status=live }}</ref>
The newlyweds kneel in front of parents presenting tea. A Good Luck Woman making the tea says auspicious phrases to bless the newlyweds and their families. The newlyweds also present tea to each other, raising the tea cups high to show respect before presenting the tea to each other.
The attendants receiving the tea usually give the bride gifts such as jewelry or a [[red envelope]].
The tea ceremony is an official ritual to introduce the newlyweds to each other's family, and a way for newlyweds to show respect and appreciation to their parents. The newlyweds kneel in front of their parents, serving tea to both sides of parents, as well as elder close relatives. Parents give their words of blessing and gifts to the newlyweds.
==Humanist weddings==
While many wedding traditions and rituals have origins in religions and are still performed by religious leaders, some marriage traditions are cultural and predate the prevalent religions in those regions. Non-religious people will often want to have a wedding that is secular (not religious) in content. In order to meet this demand, secular ceremonies by carried out by [[humanist celebrant]]s first developed in the 19th century. [[Humanists UK]] members pioneered humanist weddings in the 1890s, and its weddings continue to be popular with couples across England, Wales, and Northern Ireland. In Scotland, [[Humanist Society Scotland]] (HSS) has carried out secular ceremonies in the country since the 1980s. These have been legally recognised since 2005,<ref>{{cite web |url=http://www.humanism-scotland.org.uk/content/hss_history/ |title=Humanist Society Scotland | Celebrate the one life we have |publisher=Humanism-scotland.org.uk |date=August 28, 2015 |access-date=2015-11-10 |archive-date=December 30, 2013 |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20131230092916/http://www.humanism-scotland.org.uk/content/hss_history/ |url-status=live }}</ref> and became more numerous than church weddings in 2018.<ref>{{cite web|url=https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-scotland-33146226|title=Scottish humanists to overtake Kirk weddings|work=[[BBC Scotland]]|access-date=31 May 2017|date=18 June 2015|archive-date=November 15, 2019|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20191115155459/https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-scotland-33146226|url-status=live}}</ref><ref>{{cite web|url=https://www.humanism.scot/what-we-do/news/more-than-4200-humanist-weddings-took-place-in-scotland-last-year/|title=More than 4200 Humanist weddings took place in Scotland last year|date=August 2016|access-date=31 May 2017|work=[[Humanist Society Scotland]]|first=Steven|last=Brocklehurst|archive-date=October 1, 2020|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20201001075657/https://www.humanism.scot/what-we-do/news/more-than-4200-humanist-weddings-took-place-in-scotland-last-year/|url-status=live}}</ref>
Humanist wedding ceremonies are carried out in a variety of countries like the U.S., Canada and recently Brazil, having legal status in only a few of these countries. Humanist celebrants are able to perform valid civil marriages and civil partnerships in the Republic of Ireland. Secular weddings are becoming more popular in Ireland due to a declining influence of the Catholic Church.<ref>{{cite news |last=Walsh |first=Fionnuala |url=https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/less-than-half-of-irish-weddings-are-catholic-qmw687xkg |title=Less than half of Irish weddings are Catholic |work=[[The Times]] |date=2019-04-11 |url-status=live |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20190418171526/https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/less-than-half-of-irish-weddings-are-catholic-qmw687xkg |archive-date=2019-04-18 |access-date=2019-05-22 }}</ref> Since 2015, Irish humanists have conducted more weddings than the [[Church of Ireland]].<ref name=NIlegal>{{cite web|url=https://humanism.org.uk/2017/06/09/success-couple-win-challenge-to-lack-of-legal-recognition-of-humanist-marriages-in-northern-ireland/|title=Success! Couple win challenge to lack of legal recognition of humanist marriages in Northern Ireland|work=Humanists UK|access-date=9 June 2017|date=9 June 2017|archive-date=November 15, 2019|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20191115162506/https://humanism.org.uk/2017/06/09/success-couple-win-challenge-to-lack-of-legal-recognition-of-humanist-marriages-in-northern-ireland/|url-status=live}}</ref>
[[Image:Mixed-couple.jpg|thumb|right|220px|upright|A 2004 California wedding between a Filipina bride and a Nigerian groom.]]
==Types==
There are many ways to categorize weddings, such as by the size or cultural traditions. A wedding may fall into several categories, such as a destination microwedding, or a civil elopement.
===White wedding===
[[File:"...Лучшее, конечно, впереди!" "... The best, of course, ahead!" ) (3527495977).jpg|thumb|White wedding]]
{{Main|White wedding}}
A white wedding is a term for a traditional formal or semi-formal Western wedding. This term refers to the color of the wedding dress, which became popular after Queen Victoria wore a pure white gown when she married [[Albert, Prince Consort|Prince Albert]] and many were quick to copy her choice.<ref name=":2" /> At the time, the color white symbolized both extravagance and virginal purity to many and had become the color for use by young women being formally presented to the royal court.<ref name="Otnes 2003 p.31"/>
===Civil wedding===
A civil wedding is a ceremony presided over by a local [[civil authority]], such as an elected or appointed judge, [[Justice of the peace]] or the mayor of a locality. Civil wedding ceremonies may use references to God or a [[deity]] (except in U.K law where readings and music are also restricted), but generally no references to a particular religion or [[religious denomination|denomination]].
Civil weddings allow partners of different faiths to marry without one partner converting to the other partner's religion.
They can be either elaborate or simple. Many civil wedding ceremonies take place in local town or city halls or courthouses in judges' chambers.
The relevance of civil weddings varies greatly from country to country. Some countries do not provide any form of civil wedding at all (Israel and many Islamic countries), while in others it is the only legally recognized form of marriage (most countries in Latin America, Europe, and Asia). In this case civil weddings are typically either a mandatory prerequisite for any religious ceremony or religious weddings have no legal significance at all. See [[Civil marriage#Civil marriage in the world currently|Civil Marriage]]<ref>for details. Gavira, Juan. [http://www.juangavira.com/mariajo-y-manu-salto-de-la-novia/ "Characteristics of a Spanish wedding"] {{Webarchive|url=https://web.archive.org/web/20160303142912/http://www.juangavira.com/mariajo-y-manu-salto-de-la-novia/ |date=March 3, 2016 }}. Juangavira.com</ref>
Not to be confused with an elopement, a ''destination wedding'' is one in which a wedding is hosted, often in a vacation-like setting, at a location to which most of the invited guests must travel and often stay for several days. This could be a beach ceremony in the tropics, a lavish event in a metropolitan resort, or a simple ceremony at the home of a geographically distant friend or relative. During the recession of 2009, destination weddings continued to see growth compared to traditional weddings, as the typically smaller size results in lower costs.<ref>{{cite news |last=Parsons |first=Claudia |url=https://www.reuters.com/article/us-economy-weddings-idUSTRE54B70020090512 |title=Destination weddings see growth despite recession |work=Reuters |date=May 12, 2009 |access-date=2015-11-10 |archive-date=November 23, 2018 |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20181123133659/https://www.reuters.com/article/us-economy-weddings-idUSTRE54B70020090512 |url-status=live }}</ref>
Weddings held at prestigious venues such as castles or stately homes have become increasingly popular in the 21st century particularly in European countries such as the UK, France and Germany. From 2010 onwards, there has been an increase in destination weddings that are hosted in exotic places like Indonesia, Maldives, India, and Pakistan.
Destination weddings are prohibited in certain denominations of Christianity, such as the [[Catholic Church]], which teach that [[Christian views on marriage|Christian marriages]] should take place in the presence of God at [[church (building)|church]], where Christians began their journey of faith in the [[sacrament]] of [[baptism]].<ref name="Dooley2016"/>
===Double wedding===
A double wedding is a double ceremony where two [[Engagement|affianced]] couples rendezvous for two simultaneous or consecutive weddings. Typically, a fiancé with a sibling who is also engaged, or four close friends in which both couples within the friendship are engaged might plan a double wedding where both couples legally marry.
===Elopement===
[[Elopement (marriage)|Elopement]] is the act of getting married, often unexpectedly, without inviting guests to the wedding. In some cases, a small group of family or friends may be present, while in others, the engaged couple may marry without the consent or knowledge of parents or others. While the couple may or may not be widely known to be engaged prior to the elopement, the wedding itself is generally a surprise to those who are later informed of its occurrence.
===Handfasting===
A handfasting is an old pagan custom, dating back to the time of the ancient [[Celts]]. A handfasting was originally more like an engagement period, where two people would declare a binding union between themselves for a year and a day. The original handfasting was a trial marriage.<ref>{{cite web |url=http://www.handfastings.org/abouthandfastings.htm |title=About Handfastings |publisher=Handfastings.org |access-date=2015-11-10 |archive-date=February 16, 2015 |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20150216212240/http://www.handfastings.org/abouthandfastings.htm |url-status=live }}</ref>
===Highland or Scottish wedding===
[[Image:Scotland Wedding.jpg|thumb|The groom and one other in the wedding party wear a [[kilt]] with [[Argyll jacket]] and long tie.]]
A Highland or Scottish wedding has the groom, with some or all of the groom's men wear a [[kilt]]. The bride may wear a sash or other tartan clothing. The Scottish basket sword is used for any [[Saber Arch]].
===Mass wedding===
A [[Collective wedding|collective or mass wedding]] is a single ceremony where numerous couples are married simultaneously.
===Microwedding===
A microwedding is defined by the small number of friends and family members present. The number of guests is usually understood to be no more than 10 or 15 people including family members,<ref name=":1">{{Cite news|last=Goldfarb|first=Anna|date=2017-10-12|title=What to Know About Having a Microwedding|language=en-US|work=The New York Times|url=https://www.nytimes.com/2017/10/12/smarter-living/what-to-know-about-having-a-microwedding.html|access-date=2021-01-17|issn=0362-4331|archive-date=May 24, 2022|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20220524034521/https://www.nytimes.com/2017/10/12/smarter-living/what-to-know-about-having-a-microwedding.html|url-status=live}}</ref> although some sources will use this label for a small wedding with up to 50 guests.<ref>{{Cite web|last=Mackey|first=Jaimie|date=15 April 2020|title=What Is a Micro Wedding and Should You Have One?|url=https://www.brides.com/story/how-to-throw-a-microwedding|access-date=2021-01-17|website=Brides|language=en|archive-date=January 19, 2021|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20210119134838/https://www.brides.com/story/how-to-throw-a-microwedding|url-status=live}}</ref> Compared to an elopement or a civil wedding with no guests, a microwedding is planned and announced in advance and may incorporate whatever traditions and activities the family wants to maintain, such as a wedding cake, photographs, or religious ceremonies.<ref name=":1" /> Although the cost per guest may be higher, the overall cost of a microwedding is usually significantly less than a large wedding.<ref name=":1" /><ref>{{Cite web|last=Midland|first=Cary|date=8 October 2018|title=What's a Micro Wedding, and Why Are They Becoming So Popular?|url=https://www.marthastewart.com/7872656/micro-wedding-trend-explained|access-date=2021-01-17|website=Martha Stewart|language=EN|archive-date=December 12, 2020|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20201212202632/https://www.marthastewart.com/7872656/micro-wedding-trend-explained|url-status=live}}</ref> Microweddings gained attention during the [[COVID-19 pandemic]] as a way to have a wedding event in compliance with public health restrictions.<ref>{{Cite news|last=Velez|first=Mandy|date=2020-07-06|title=COVID-19 Didn't Kill Weddings. But It May Change Them Forever.|language=en|work=The Daily Beast|url=https://www.thedailybeast.com/covid-19-didnt-kill-weddings-but-it-may-change-them-forever|access-date=2021-01-17|archive-date=March 1, 2021|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20210301082517/https://www.thedailybeast.com/covid-19-didnt-kill-weddings-but-it-may-change-them-forever|url-status=live}}</ref><ref>{{Cite web|last=Rello|first=Gabriella|date=13 July 2020|title=How to Plan a Beautiful, Meaningful Micro Wedding So That You Can Celebrate Your Postponed Nuptials Right Now|url=https://www.marthastewart.com/7946922/tips-planning-micro-wedding-coronavirus-covid-19-jennifer-larsen-photography|access-date=2021-01-17|website=Martha Stewart|language=EN|archive-date=January 19, 2021|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20210119122555/https://www.marthastewart.com/7946922/tips-planning-micro-wedding-coronavirus-covid-19-jennifer-larsen-photography|url-status=live}}</ref>
===Military wedding===
[[File:Boda militar0001.jpg|thumb|A [[saber arch]] at a military wedding in 1955, Argentinian Naval Officer in [[Military uniform|Dress Uniform]] and [[Bride]]]]
A military wedding is a ceremony conducted in a military chapel and may involve a [[Saber Arch]]. In most military weddings one or both of the people getting married will wear a [[Military uniform|military dress uniform]] in lieu of civilian formal wear. Some retired military personnel who marry after their service has ended may opt for a military wedding.
=== Peasant wedding ===
A peasant wedding is a Dutch [[carnival in the Netherlands|carnival]] custom.
Not everywhere in [[Limburg (Netherlands)|Limburg]] and [[North Brabant|Brabant]] is a ''boerenbruiloft'' (peasant's wedding) part of the carnival. Especially in the northern and central part of Limburg and eastern part of North Brabant is the ''boerenbruiloft'' very often held during the carnival and is an important part of the carnival culture. Each carnival association has its own tradition concerning choosing the spouse for a wedding. Often the bride and groom are chosen by the council of eleven or by the couple that was married the year before. It is not necessary that the newlyweds are a couple in real life. It is also not necessary that the bride and groom are single. Both the bride and groom, however, should be in love during the carnival and they need to transfer their love to all the people who celebrate their wedding along with them. The highlight of the festival of the peasant wedding is the wedding and feast of the ''onecht'' (not-marriage) of the bride and groom. There are many aspects that can be found in a real-life marriage. First the [[engagement]] will be announced just as if it would be an official marriage. And both the families should learn to know each other very well in organizing the party and the ceremony, like a normal wedding. The two families prepare a piece of entertainment for the wedding.<ref>{{cite web|url=http://houseplantation.com/wedding-day-invitation-styles-and-designs-a-vintage-approach/ |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20160121010938/http://houseplantation.com/wedding-day-invitation-styles-and-designs-a-vintage-approach/ |archive-date = 21 January 2016 |title=Wedding Day Invitation Styles and Designs – A Vintage Approach |date=December 10, 2015 |publisher=Houseplantation | access-date=2016-08-26}}</ref> And just like a real wedding, a [[Wedding reception|reception]] and a feast is organized where guests are asked to wear appropriate clothing. The bride and groom will often dress in wedding clothing from before 1940. The bride, for example, will often wear a [[poffer]], which is a traditional Brabantian headdress.<ref name="Vastelaovendinlimburg.nl">{{cite web |url=http://www.vastelaovendinlimburg.nl/2013/02/01/boerenbruiloft-hoezo-in-het-onecht-verbonden/ |title=Boerenbruiloft: hoezo in het 'onecht' verbonden? | Vastelaovend en Carnaval in Limburg |publisher=Vastelaovendinlimburg.nl |date=April 8, 2013 |access-date=2013-10-29 |archive-date=October 29, 2013 |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20131029194137/http://www.vastelaovendinlimburg.nl/2013/02/01/boerenbruiloft-hoezo-in-het-onecht-verbonden/ |url-status=live }}</ref>
===Same-sex wedding===
{{Main|Same-sex marriage}}
A marriage between two people of the same sex.
===Shotgun wedding===
A [[shotgun wedding]] is a wedding in which the groom is reluctant to marry the bride, however, is strongly encouraged to do so to avoid family, social or legal repercussions. In many cases, the bride is pregnant before the wedding and the family of the bride, most commonly the bride's father insists that the groom marry the bride before the pregnancy becomes obvious.
===Vow renewal wedding===
A [[wedding vow renewal ceremony|wedding vow renewal]] is a ceremony in which a married couple renews or reaffirms their wedding vows. Typically, this ceremony is held to commemorate a milestone wedding anniversary. It may also be held to recreate the marriage ceremony in the presence of family and friends, especially in the case of an earlier [[Elopement (marriage)|elopement]].
===Weekend wedding===
A weekend wedding is a wedding in which couples and their guests celebrate over the course of an entire weekend. Special activities, such as spa treatments and golf tournaments may be scheduled into the wedding itinerary. Lodging usually is at the same facility as the wedding and couples often host a Sunday brunch for the weekend's finale.
==Wedding ceremony participants==
[[File:Hochzeit Prinzessin Feodora RjL und Herzog Adolf Friedrich zu Mecklenburg, Gera 1917.jpg|thumb|Formal family picture of a Royal Wedding.]]
[[File:Waiting for the bride 3 (5642465187).jpg|thumbnail|Waiting for the bride. From left: priest, groom and ushers in New Zealand wearing Scottish kilts.]]
[[Image:Wedding of Francis Joseph Woods (1891-1972) and Marguerite Jensen (1892-1986) on 12 September 1917 in Chicago, Illinois.jpg|thumb|A wedding party in 1918]]
Wedding ceremony participants also referred to as the wedding party, are the people that participate directly in the wedding ceremony itself.
Depending on the location, religion, and style of the wedding, this group may include only the individual people that are marrying, or it may include one or more ''brides'', ''grooms'' (or ''bridegrooms''), ''persons of honor'', ''bridespersons'', ''best persons'', ''groomsmen'', ''flower girls'', ''pages'', and ''ring bearers''.
A "bride's party" consists of those chosen to participate from her family or friends, while a "groom's party" consists of those from his family or friends.
* [[Bride]]: A woman about to be married.
* Bridegroom or [[Groom]]: A man about to be married.
* [[Marriage officiant]]: The person who officiates at the wedding, validating the wedding from a legal and/or religious standpoint. This person may be a civil celebrant, judge, [[justice of the peace]], or a member of the [[clergy]]. In [[Marriage in Hinduism|Hindu marriages]], the marriage officiant is called a pandit or Brahmin.<ref>{{Britannica |id=77093 |title=Brahman}}</ref>
* [[Best man|Best Man, Woman, or Person]]: The chief assistant to a bridegroom at a wedding, typically a sibling or friend of special significance in his life. Often holds the wedding rings until their exchange.
* Mothers of a Bride or Groom
* Fathers of a Bride or Groom
* [[Bridesmaid#Maid of honor|Maid, Matron or Man of Honor]]: the title and position held by a bride's chief attendant, typically her closest friend or sibling.
* [[Bridesmaid]]s: the female attendants to a bride. Males in this role may be called honor attendants or sometimes [[bridesman|bridesmen]], but that term has a different traditional meaning.
* {{anchor|groom's honor attendant}}[[Groomsman|Groomsmen]] or Ushers: The attendants, usually male, to a bridegroom in a wedding ceremony. Female attendants, such as a sister of the groom, are typically called honor attendants.
* [[Page boy (wedding attendant)|Pages]]: Young attendants may carry a bride's train. In a formal wedding, the ring bearer is a special page that carries the rings down the aisle. The coin bearer is a similar page that marches on the wedding aisle to bring the [[wedding coins]].
* [[Flower girl]]s: In some traditions, one or more children carry bouquets or drop flower petals in front of a bride in the wedding procession.
==Wedding industry==
The global wedding industry was worth $300 billion as of 2016. The [[Wedding industry in the United States|United States wedding industry]] alone was estimated to be worth $60 billion as of the same year. In the United States, the wedding industry employs over one million people throughout 600,000 businesses and grows 2% each year. The industry has undergone a transition due to the increased use of technology. [[Personal wedding website|Bridal websites]], blogs, and social media accounts have driven spending up and created new trends and traditions.<ref>{{Cite web|url = http://www.huffingtonpost.com/matt-douglas/part-1-the-past-present-f_b_9294420.html|title = Part 1: The Past, Present and Future of the Wedding Industry|website = [[HuffPost]]|date = February 24, 2016|access-date = October 14, 2016|archive-date = December 13, 2016|archive-url = https://web.archive.org/web/20161213144636/http://www.huffingtonpost.com/matt-douglas/part-1-the-past-present-f_b_9294420.html|url-status = live}}</ref>
In 2016, the average cost of a wedding in the U.S. was estimated to be at $35,329,<ref>{{cite magazine|last1=Lui|first1=Kevin|title=This Is How Much It Now Costs to Get Married in the U.S. on Average|url=http://fortune.com/2017/02/03/wedding-cost-spending-usa-average/|access-date=June 30, 2017|magazine=Fortune|archive-date=July 3, 2017|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20170703005125/http://fortune.com/2017/02/03/wedding-cost-spending-usa-average/|url-status=live}}</ref> whereas the median cost of a wedding was around $14,399<ref>{{Citation | title = 2016 U.S. Median Cost of a Wedding was $14,399 | publisher = [[The Wedding Institute]] | url = https://www.theweddingreport.com/index.cfm/action/blog/view/post/pid/670/title/2016_U_S__Median_Cost_of_a_Wedding_was__14_399 | access-date = September 1, 2017}}</ref> that year. According to one scholarly study of American couples, extravagant spending on weddings is associated with debt stress and short-lived marriages that end in divorce.<ref name=":0">{{Cite report|last1=Francis-Tan|first1=Andrew|last2=Mialon|first2=Hugo M.|date=2014-09-15|title='A Diamond is Forever' and Other Fairy Tales: The Relationship between Wedding Expenses and Marriage Duration|language=en|location=Rochester, NY|doi=10.2139/ssrn.2501480|ssrn=2501480|s2cid=44741655}}</ref> Couples who spent less than US$10,000 on all wedding-related expenses, and who had a relatively large number of guests in attendance, were the least likely to divorce.<ref name=":0" />
A wedding is a ceremony where two people are united in marriage. Wedding traditions and customs vary greatly between cultures, ethnic groups, religions, countries, and social classes. Most wedding ceremonies involve an exchange of marriage vows by a couple, presentation of a gift (offering, rings, symbolic item, flowers, money, dress), and a public proclamation of marriage by an authority figure or celebrant. Special wedding garments are often worn, and the ceremony is sometimes followed by a wedding reception. Music, poetry, prayers, or readings from religious texts or literature are also commonly incorporated into the ceremony, as well as superstitious customs.
Some cultures have adopted the traditional Western custom of the white wedding, in which a bride wears a white wedding dress and veil. This tradition was popularized through the marriage of Queen Victoria.[1] Some say Victoria's choice of a white gown may have simply been a sign of extravagance, but may have also been influenced by the values she held which emphasized sexual purity.[2]
The use of a wedding ring has long been part of religious weddings in Europe and America, but the origin of the tradition is unclear. One possibility is the Roman belief in the Vena amoris, which was believed to be a blood vessel that ran from the fourth finger (ring finger) directly to the heart. Thus, when a couple wore rings on this finger, their hearts were connected. Historian Vicki Howard points out that the belief in the "ancient" quality of the practice is most likely a modern invention.[3] In the United States of America, a groom's wedding band has not appeared until the early 20th century,[4] while in Europe it has been part of the tradition since the ancient Romans, as witnessed by the jurist Gaius.
The exit from the wedding ceremony is also called the "send off", and often includes traditional practices, such as the newlyweds and the wedding party bowing and kissing the knees of the elders in Ethiopian weddings. The send off often includes throwing rice (a symbol of prosperity and fertility)[5] or other seeds at the newlyweds in most of the Western world,[6] as well as for example India[5] and Malaysia.[7] Despite fears of the opposite, the use of uncooked rice for this purpose is not harmful to birds.[8]Shoe tossing in place of rice has also been used in several cultures.[9]
The wedding ceremony is often followed by wedding reception or a wedding breakfast, in which the rituals may include speeches from a groom, best man, father of a bride and possibly a bride,[10] the newlyweds' first dance as a couple, and the cutting of an elegant wedding cake. In recent years traditions have changed to include a father-daughter dance for a bride and her father, and sometimes also a mother-son dance for a groom and his mother.
Wedding dress (or bridal gown), a special dress worn by a bride.
Traditional western wedding veilWedding veil, popularized by Queen Victoria, was a long-held custom in which the 'purity' and 'innocence' of the bride could thwart away evil spirits.
White tie ("evening dress" in the U.K; very formal evening attire)
Black tie or Evening Suit ("dinner jacket" in the U.K; often referred to as a "tuxedo" in the U.S and Canada; traditionally appropriate only for use after 6:00 p.m.
Kittel, a white robe worn by the groom at an Orthodox Jewish wedding. The kittel is worn only under the chuppah, and is removed before the reception.
Qun Gua or Kua (裙褂 pinyin qún guà, Cantonese kwàhn kwáa), Chinese traditional formal wear. This can be in the form of a qipao or hanfu.
Ribbon shirt, often worn by American Indian men on auspicious occasions, such as weddings, another common custom is to wrap bride and groom in a blanket
The "Bridal Chorus" from Lohengrin by Richard Wagner, commonly known as "Here Comes the Bride", is often used as the processional. Wagner is said to have been anti-Semitic,[15] and as a result, the Bridal Chorus is normally not used at Jewish weddings.[16] UK law forbids music with any religious connotations to be used in a civil ceremony.[17]
Johann Pachelbel's Canon in D is an alternative processional.[18] Other alternatives include various contemporary melodies, such as Bob Marley's One Love, which is sometimes performed by a steel drum band.[4] The Music used in modern weddings is left completely up to the Bride and Groom and it is also becoming growingly popular for couples to add their own twist to the song they walk down the aisle to. Many Brides and Grooms use songs that are sentimental or hold special value to them.
In the United States, approximately 2 million people get married each year and close to 70 million people attend a wedding and spend more than $100 on a gift.[19]
In the United Kingdom, according to a survey, the average spend minimum spend on a wedding gift[20] is £24.70 and the average maximum spend is £111.46. 85% of people said that they were more likely to spend more money on a person if they had a better relationship with them.
Customs associated with various religions and cultures[edit | edit source]
Most Christian churches give some form of blessing to a marriage, which is seen as a sacred institution in some sense, although terminology and associated theological meanings vary widely from one denomination to another: e.g., "holy matrimony," "sacrament of marriage," "holy ordinance of marriage," "holy union," and so forth.
A celebration of Holy Matrimony typically includes mutual vows or solemn promises of lifelong love and fidelity by the couple, and may include some sort of pledge by the community to support the couple's relationship. A church wedding is a ceremony held in a church and presided over by a Christian pastor. Traditionally, Christian weddings occur in a church as Christian marriage ideally begins where one also starts their faith journey (Christians receive the sacrament of baptism in church in the presence of their congregation).[21] Catholic Christian weddings must "take place in a church building" as holy matrimony is a sacrament; sacraments normatively occur in the presence of Christ in the house of God, and "members of the faith community [should be] present to witness the event and provide support and encouragement for those celebrating the sacrament."[21] Bishops never grant permission "to those requesting to be married in a garden, on the beach, or some other place outside of the church" and a dispensation is only granted "in extraordinary circumstances (for example, if a bride or groom is ill or disabled and unable to come to the church)."[21] Marriage in the church, for Christians, is seen as contributing to the fruit of the newlywed couple regularly attending church each Lord's Day and raising children in the faith.[21]
Wedding ceremonies typically contain prayers and readings from the Holy Bible and reflect the church's teachings about the spiritual significance of marriage, as well as its purpose and obligations. The wedding service often includes the reception of Holy Communion, especially in the context of Mass (as with Catholicism, Lutheranism, and Anglicanism).[22] In some traditional weddings of Western Christianity (especially Catholicism, Lutheranism and Anglicanism), a 'care cloth' or 'nuptial veil' (velatio nuptialis) "signifying a marriage yoke joining the bride and groom together" may be held over the kneeling couple during the nuptial blessing given by the priest.[23][24][25][26][27]
Pre-marital counseling may be urged or required for the engaged couple.[28] In some Christian countries or denominations, a betrothal rite, as well as the reading of banns of marriage may also be required before the wedding date.[29]
In the Roman Catholic Church, Holy Matrimony is considered to be one of the seven sacraments, in this case, one that the spouses bestow upon each other in front of a priest and members of the community as witnesses. As with all sacraments, it is seen as having been instituted by Jesus himself (see Gospel of Matthew 19:1–2, Catechism of the Catholic Church §1614–1615). In the Eastern Orthodox Church, it is one of the Mysteries and is seen as an ordination and a martyrdom. The Christian wedding ceremony of Saint Thomas Christians, an ethnoreligious group of Christians in India, incorporates elements from local Indian traditions. Protestant weddings may be elaborate (as with Lutheranism and Anglicanism) or simple (as with Baptists). For example, in the United Methodist Church, the Service of Christian Marriage (Rite I) includes the elements found in a typical Sunday service, such as hymns, prayers, and readings from the Bible, as well as other elements unique to a wedding, including taking marriage vows and an optional exchange of wedding rings, as well as a special benediction for the couple.[30]Holy Communion may be part of the wedding service in liturgical Protestant churches (e.g., Lutheran, Anglican, or Methodist), but is rarely, if ever, found in weddings of other low-church Protestant denominations (e.g., Baptists).
In some Western countries, a separate and secular civil wedding ceremony is required for recognition by the state, while in other Western countries, couples must merely obtain a marriage license from a local government authority and can be married by Christian or other clergy authorized by law to do so.
Since the beginning of the 21st century, same-sex couples have been allowed to marry civilly in many countries, and some Christian churches in those countries allow religious marriages of same-sex couples, though some forbid it. See the article Same-sex marriage.
A girl with the traditional gift of Gaye holud.Bridegroom arrives on horseback at a Rajput wedding
Hindu ceremonies are usually conducted totally or at least partially in Sanskrit, the language of the Hindu scriptures. The wedding celebrations may last for several days and they can be extremely diverse, depending upon the region, denomination, and caste. Mehendi ceremony is a traditional ritual in Hindu weddings, where Henna application takes place on the bride's hands and legs, before the wedding. On the wedding day, the bride and the bridegroom garland each other in front of the guests. Most guests witness only this short ceremony and then socialize, have food, and leave. The religious part (if applicable) comes hours later, witnessed by close friends and relatives. In cases where a religious ceremony is present, a Brahmin (Hindu priest) arranges a sacred yajna (fire-sacrifice), and the sacred fire (Agni) is considered the prime witness (sākshī) of the marriage. He chants mantras from the Vedas and subsidiary texts while the couple is seated before the fire. The most important step is saptapadi or saat phere, wherein the bride and the groom, hand-in-hand, encircle the sacred fire seven times, each circle representing a matrimonial vow. Then the groom marks the bride's hair parting with vermilion (sindoor) and puts a gold necklace (mangalsutra) around her neck. Or a yellow thread applied with turmeric is knotted around the bride's neck 3 times at marriage. The first knot represents her obedience and respect to her husband, the second one to his parents and the third represents her respect to God. Several other rituals may precede or follow these afore-mentioned rites. Then the bride formally departs from her blood-relatives to join the groom's family.
Before the ceremony, the couple formalize a written ketubah (marriage contract), specifying the obligations of husband to the wife and contingencies in case of divorce. The ketubah is signed by two witnesses and later read under the chuppah (wedding canopy).
The couple is married under the chuppah signifying their new home together. The chuppah can be made from a piece of cloth or other material attached to four poles, or a giant tallit (prayer shawl) held over the couple by four family members or friends.
The wedding couple is accompanied by both sets of parents and they join the wedding couple under the chuppah.
In Orthodox Jewish weddings, the bride is accompanied to the chuppah by both mothers, and the groom is accompanied to the chuppah by both fathers.
Seven blessings are recited, blessing the bride and groom and their new home.
The couple sip a glass of wine from a Kiddush cup.
The groom will smash a wine glass with his right foot, ostensibly in remembrance of the destruction of the Second Temple.
In Reform Jewish weddings, the bride and groom can smash the wine glass together.
At some weddings, the couple may declare that each is sanctified to the other, repeat other vows and exchange rings.
In Orthodox Jewish weddings, the bride does not speak under the chuppah and only she receives a ring. The groom recites "Harei at mekudeshet li k'dat Moshe V'Yisrael"- "behold you are [thus] sanctified to me by the law of Moses and Israel" as he places the ring on the bride's right index finger. The bride's silence and acceptance of the ring signify her agreement to the marriage. This part of the ceremony is called kiddushin. The groom's giving an object of value to the bride is necessary for the wedding to be valid.
In more egalitarian weddings, the bride responds verbally, often giving the groom a ring in return. A common response is "ani l'dodi, v'dodi li" (I am my beloved's, my beloved is mine)
In some Orthodox weddings, the groom then says:
"If I forget you, O Jerusalem, may my right hand forget its skill.
May my tongue cling to the roof of my mouth.
If I do not remember you,
if I do not consider Jerusalem in my highest joy."
The ceremony ends with the groom breaking a glass underfoot.
The couple spend their first moments as husband and wife in seclusion (apart from the wedding guests, and with no other person present). This cheder yichud – "the room of seclusion (or 'oneness')" halachically strengthens the marriage bond since Orthodox Jews are forbidden to be secluded with an unrelated person of the opposite sex.
The ceremony is followed by a seudat mitzvah, the wedding meal, as well as music and dancing.
At the conclusion of the wedding meal, Birkat Hamazon (Grace After Meals) is recited, as well as the seven wedding blessings.
In more observant communities, the couple will celebrate for seven more days, called the Sheva Brachot (seven blessings) during which the seven wedding blessings are recited at every large gathering during this time.
Bridal PortraitHenna on the hands of a bride in Tunisia
A wedding is typically a happy time for families to celebrate. In the Middle East, there are colorful, cultural variations from place to place.[37]
Two male witnesses who are the members of the family in most cases are required for Nikah. According to the Quran, in a married Muslim couple, both husband and wife act as each other's protector and comforter and therefore only meant "for each other".
All Muslim marriages have to be declared publicly and are never to be undertaken in secret. For many Muslims, it is the ceremony that counts as the actual wedding alongside a confirmation of that wedding in a registry office according to fiqh. In Islam a wedding is also viewed as a legal contract particularly in Islamic jurisprudences. However, most Muslim cultures separate both the institutions of the mosque and marriage; no religious official is necessary, but very often an Imam presides and performs the ceremony, he may deliver a short sermon.[38] Celebrations may differ from country to country depending on their culture but the main ceremony is followed by a Walima (the marriage banquet).
In Islam, polygyny is allowed with certain religious restrictions. Despite that, an overwhelming majority of Muslims traditionally practice monogamy.
It is forbidden in Islam for parents or anyone else: to force, coerce, or trick either man or woman into a marriage that is contrary to the individual will of any one of the couples. It is also necessary for all marriages to commence with the best of intentions.
In traditional Chinese wedding ceremonies, bride arrives in a jiao
At traditional Chinese weddings, the tea ceremony is the equivalent of an exchange of vows at a Western wedding ceremony. This ritual is still practiced widely among rural Chinese; however, young people in larger cities, as well as in Taiwan, Hong Kong, Malaysia, and Singapore, tend to practice a combination of Western style of marriage together with the tea ceremony.
When the bride leaves her home with the groom to his house, a "Good Luck Woman" will hold a red umbrella over her head, meaning, "Raise the bark, spread the leaves." This "Good Luck Woman" should be someone who is blessed with a good marriage, healthy children, and husband and living parents. Other relatives will scatter rice, red beans, and green beans in front of her. The red umbrella protects the bride from evil spirits, and the rice and beans are to attract the attention of the gold chicken.[39]
The newlyweds kneel in front of parents presenting tea. A Good Luck Woman making the tea says auspicious phrases to bless the newlyweds and their families. The newlyweds also present tea to each other, raising the tea cups high to show respect before presenting the tea to each other.
The attendants receiving the tea usually give the bride gifts such as jewelry or a red envelope.
The tea ceremony is an official ritual to introduce the newlyweds to each other's family, and a way for newlyweds to show respect and appreciation to their parents. The newlyweds kneel in front of their parents, serving tea to both sides of parents, as well as elder close relatives. Parents give their words of blessing and gifts to the newlyweds.
While many wedding traditions and rituals have origins in religions and are still performed by religious leaders, some marriage traditions are cultural and predate the prevalent religions in those regions. Non-religious people will often want to have a wedding that is secular (not religious) in content. In order to meet this demand, secular ceremonies by carried out by humanist celebrants first developed in the 19th century. Humanists UK members pioneered humanist weddings in the 1890s, and its weddings continue to be popular with couples across England, Wales, and Northern Ireland. In Scotland, Humanist Society Scotland (HSS) has carried out secular ceremonies in the country since the 1980s. These have been legally recognised since 2005,[40] and became more numerous than church weddings in 2018.[41][42]
Humanist wedding ceremonies are carried out in a variety of countries like the U.S., Canada and recently Brazil, having legal status in only a few of these countries. Humanist celebrants are able to perform valid civil marriages and civil partnerships in the Republic of Ireland. Secular weddings are becoming more popular in Ireland due to a declining influence of the Catholic Church.[43] Since 2015, Irish humanists have conducted more weddings than the Church of Ireland.[44]
A 2004 California wedding between a Filipina bride and a Nigerian groom.
There are many ways to categorize weddings, such as by the size or cultural traditions. A wedding may fall into several categories, such as a destination microwedding, or a civil elopement.
A white wedding is a term for a traditional formal or semi-formal Western wedding. This term refers to the color of the wedding dress, which became popular after Queen Victoria wore a pure white gown when she married Prince Albert and many were quick to copy her choice.[1] At the time, the color white symbolized both extravagance and virginal purity to many and had become the color for use by young women being formally presented to the royal court.[2]
A civil wedding is a ceremony presided over by a local civil authority, such as an elected or appointed judge, Justice of the peace or the mayor of a locality. Civil wedding ceremonies may use references to God or a deity (except in U.K law where readings and music are also restricted), but generally no references to a particular religion or denomination.
Civil weddings allow partners of different faiths to marry without one partner converting to the other partner's religion.
They can be either elaborate or simple. Many civil wedding ceremonies take place in local town or city halls or courthouses in judges' chambers.
The relevance of civil weddings varies greatly from country to country. Some countries do not provide any form of civil wedding at all (Israel and many Islamic countries), while in others it is the only legally recognized form of marriage (most countries in Latin America, Europe, and Asia). In this case civil weddings are typically either a mandatory prerequisite for any religious ceremony or religious weddings have no legal significance at all. See Civil Marriage[45]
"Destination wedding" redirects here. For the film, see Destination Wedding.
Not to be confused with an elopement, a destination wedding is one in which a wedding is hosted, often in a vacation-like setting, at a location to which most of the invited guests must travel and often stay for several days. This could be a beach ceremony in the tropics, a lavish event in a metropolitan resort, or a simple ceremony at the home of a geographically distant friend or relative. During the recession of 2009, destination weddings continued to see growth compared to traditional weddings, as the typically smaller size results in lower costs.[46]
Weddings held at prestigious venues such as castles or stately homes have become increasingly popular in the 21st century particularly in European countries such as the UK, France and Germany. From 2010 onwards, there has been an increase in destination weddings that are hosted in exotic places like Indonesia, Maldives, India, and Pakistan.
Destination weddings are prohibited in certain denominations of Christianity, such as the Catholic Church, which teach that Christian marriages should take place in the presence of God at church, where Christians began their journey of faith in the sacrament of baptism.[21]
A double wedding is a double ceremony where two affianced couples rendezvous for two simultaneous or consecutive weddings. Typically, a fiancé with a sibling who is also engaged, or four close friends in which both couples within the friendship are engaged might plan a double wedding where both couples legally marry.
Elopement is the act of getting married, often unexpectedly, without inviting guests to the wedding. In some cases, a small group of family or friends may be present, while in others, the engaged couple may marry without the consent or knowledge of parents or others. While the couple may or may not be widely known to be engaged prior to the elopement, the wedding itself is generally a surprise to those who are later informed of its occurrence.
A handfasting is an old pagan custom, dating back to the time of the ancient Celts. A handfasting was originally more like an engagement period, where two people would declare a binding union between themselves for a year and a day. The original handfasting was a trial marriage.[47]
The groom and one other in the wedding party wear a kilt with Argyll jacket and long tie.
A Highland or Scottish wedding has the groom, with some or all of the groom's men wear a kilt. The bride may wear a sash or other tartan clothing. The Scottish basket sword is used for any Saber Arch.
A microwedding is defined by the small number of friends and family members present. The number of guests is usually understood to be no more than 10 or 15 people including family members,[48] although some sources will use this label for a small wedding with up to 50 guests.[49] Compared to an elopement or a civil wedding with no guests, a microwedding is planned and announced in advance and may incorporate whatever traditions and activities the family wants to maintain, such as a wedding cake, photographs, or religious ceremonies.[48] Although the cost per guest may be higher, the overall cost of a microwedding is usually significantly less than a large wedding.[48][50] Microweddings gained attention during the COVID-19 pandemic as a way to have a wedding event in compliance with public health restrictions.[51][52]
A military wedding is a ceremony conducted in a military chapel and may involve a Saber Arch. In most military weddings one or both of the people getting married will wear a military dress uniform in lieu of civilian formal wear. Some retired military personnel who marry after their service has ended may opt for a military wedding.
Not everywhere in Limburg and Brabant is a boerenbruiloft (peasant's wedding) part of the carnival. Especially in the northern and central part of Limburg and eastern part of North Brabant is the boerenbruiloft very often held during the carnival and is an important part of the carnival culture. Each carnival association has its own tradition concerning choosing the spouse for a wedding. Often the bride and groom are chosen by the council of eleven or by the couple that was married the year before. It is not necessary that the newlyweds are a couple in real life. It is also not necessary that the bride and groom are single. Both the bride and groom, however, should be in love during the carnival and they need to transfer their love to all the people who celebrate their wedding along with them. The highlight of the festival of the peasant wedding is the wedding and feast of the onecht (not-marriage) of the bride and groom. There are many aspects that can be found in a real-life marriage. First the engagement will be announced just as if it would be an official marriage. And both the families should learn to know each other very well in organizing the party and the ceremony, like a normal wedding. The two families prepare a piece of entertainment for the wedding.[53] And just like a real wedding, a reception and a feast is organized where guests are asked to wear appropriate clothing. The bride and groom will often dress in wedding clothing from before 1940. The bride, for example, will often wear a poffer, which is a traditional Brabantian headdress.[54]
A shotgun wedding is a wedding in which the groom is reluctant to marry the bride, however, is strongly encouraged to do so to avoid family, social or legal repercussions. In many cases, the bride is pregnant before the wedding and the family of the bride, most commonly the bride's father insists that the groom marry the bride before the pregnancy becomes obvious.
A wedding vow renewal is a ceremony in which a married couple renews or reaffirms their wedding vows. Typically, this ceremony is held to commemorate a milestone wedding anniversary. It may also be held to recreate the marriage ceremony in the presence of family and friends, especially in the case of an earlier elopement.
A weekend wedding is a wedding in which couples and their guests celebrate over the course of an entire weekend. Special activities, such as spa treatments and golf tournaments may be scheduled into the wedding itinerary. Lodging usually is at the same facility as the wedding and couples often host a Sunday brunch for the weekend's finale.
Formal family picture of a Royal Wedding.Waiting for the bride. From left: priest, groom and ushers in New Zealand wearing Scottish kilts.A wedding party in 1918
Wedding ceremony participants also referred to as the wedding party, are the people that participate directly in the wedding ceremony itself.
Depending on the location, religion, and style of the wedding, this group may include only the individual people that are marrying, or it may include one or more brides, grooms (or bridegrooms), persons of honor, bridespersons, best persons, groomsmen, flower girls, pages, and ring bearers.
A "bride's party" consists of those chosen to participate from her family or friends, while a "groom's party" consists of those from his family or friends.
Marriage officiant: The person who officiates at the wedding, validating the wedding from a legal and/or religious standpoint. This person may be a civil celebrant, judge, justice of the peace, or a member of the clergy. In Hindu marriages, the marriage officiant is called a pandit or Brahmin.[55]
Best Man, Woman, or Person: The chief assistant to a bridegroom at a wedding, typically a sibling or friend of special significance in his life. Often holds the wedding rings until their exchange.
Mothers of a Bride or Groom
Fathers of a Bride or Groom
Maid, Matron or Man of Honor: the title and position held by a bride's chief attendant, typically her closest friend or sibling.
Bridesmaids: the female attendants to a bride. Males in this role may be called honor attendants or sometimes bridesmen, but that term has a different traditional meaning.
Groomsmen or Ushers: The attendants, usually male, to a bridegroom in a wedding ceremony. Female attendants, such as a sister of the groom, are typically called honor attendants.
Pages: Young attendants may carry a bride's train. In a formal wedding, the ring bearer is a special page that carries the rings down the aisle. The coin bearer is a similar page that marches on the wedding aisle to bring the wedding coins.
Flower girls: In some traditions, one or more children carry bouquets or drop flower petals in front of a bride in the wedding procession.
The global wedding industry was worth $300 billion as of 2016. The United States wedding industry alone was estimated to be worth $60 billion as of the same year. In the United States, the wedding industry employs over one million people throughout 600,000 businesses and grows 2% each year. The industry has undergone a transition due to the increased use of technology. Bridal websites, blogs, and social media accounts have driven spending up and created new trends and traditions.[56]
In 2016, the average cost of a wedding in the U.S. was estimated to be at $35,329,[57] whereas the median cost of a wedding was around $14,399[58] that year. According to one scholarly study of American couples, extravagant spending on weddings is associated with debt stress and short-lived marriages that end in divorce.[59] Couples who spent less than US$10,000 on all wedding-related expenses, and who had a relatively large number of guests in attendance, were the least likely to divorce.[59]
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